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Last week, we looked at a basic programme for harnessing male sexual energy by befriending body, breath and energy with awareness. We discussed how men can experience different kinds of orgasm and can gain control over their ejaculation, by utilizing certain practices on a daily basis. Once you have laid a solid foundation with the basic building blocks we described, here are some resources to deepen your practice in the direction of ejaculatory control and greater sexual satisfaction.
Taoist Secrets of Love: Cultivating Male Sexual Energy by Mantak Chia and Michael Winn is a book that has been around since the mid eighties and still is irreplaceable in teaching men how to gain ejaculatory control and work with sexual energy. A lot of important Taoist teachings are made accessible in this book.
The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know, also by Mantak Chia, with Douglas Abrams, is a newer book aimed at teaching men how to separate orgasm and ejaculation and become multi-orgasmic.
The companion volume is The Multi-Orgasmic Couple: Sexual Secrets Every Couple Should Know by Mantak Chia, Maneewan Chia , Douglas Abrams and Rachel Carlton Abrams. This book combines Mantak Chia's Taoist knowledge with that of Holistic MD Rachel Carlton Abrams.
Develop intimacy with your partner by setting aside time each week to get to know yourself and each other better.
The Art of Sexual Ecstasy: The path of sacred sexuality for western lovers by Margo Anand offers intimacy-building exercises for couples to do together week by week. Each study session could culminate in lovemaking--but it doesn't have to. Many couples have found this resource helpful in building sexual, sensual and emotional intimacy and enriching their connexion.
Learn Taost sexual practices together using a CD set
Sounds True offers a great CD set Taoist Sexual Secrets taught by Rachel Carlton Abrams and Lee Holden. This CD includes a special section for helping men learn ejaculatory control.
Find a certified Taoist teacher.
This website has a directory of teachers certified in Mantak Chia's Universal Healing Tao; look for a senior teacher or someone trained to teach Healing Love. These teaching sessions don't involve nudity or sexual contact; you learn practices to do at home.
May you have a joyful journey to greater sexual fulfilment!